In a relationship, there can be a lot of good things going on that cause you to be happy and relaxed, but this happiness can be short lived if you don’t pay attention to the warning signs that something is wrong. Many of us already know the warning signs, but some of us see them and ignore them. Those of you know know people like that, know that they make things harder.
If your partner stays up late at night because another friend is an ‘insomniac’, then you are looking at your first red flag. If the other person was truly happy to be in a relationship with you, then there would be nothing in the world to stop them from going to sleep beside you, especially a friend of the opposite gender. They would simply tell their friend “I’m sorry you can’t sleep, maybe you should talk to your doctor and see if there’s something they can do”.
If your partner suddenly develops an interest in their phone and text messages to a friend of the opposite gender, then you are looking at a red flag. No friend is more important than your significant other. Also, if your partner suddenly starts deleting their text messages between themselves and their friend, that’s another red flag. Relationships are supposed to be open, and if they can’t be honest and open with you over something as simple as text messages, then the relationship isn’t going to work out for long.
If your partner hates talking on the phone suddenly develops a need to call a friend of the opposite gender while you sleep, that’s another red flag.
If your partner slowly stops having sex with you, there’s another huge red flag.
If everything you do, say, or touch suddenly becomes horrible and you are constantly being put down for it, there’s another red flag. Relationships are meant to build people up, not tear them down for their mistakes.
If your partner lies to you about the nature of their conversation with any friend of the opposite gender, you’re looking at a red flag.
These red flags may seem like something that any observant person would be able to see waving, but sometimes the one committing these acts doesn’t see what they are doing as being wrong. They think that everything is A-okay and will continue doing the things that show their utter lack of respect and care for the person they are with.
If you see any of these red flags, don’t do what I did. Get out before you get so hurt that all you want to do is walk off a curb into rushing traffic.